Locked In: Understanding Chastity with Domme Larah Sky

When you mention chastity, reactions can vary wildly. Some light up with curiosity while others flinch, but for Pro-Domme Larah Sky, it’s a deeply personal and psychological practice - less about punishment, more about control, connection, and, in many cases, routine.

“It’s not always about the cage,” she explains. “It’s about what the cage represents.”

So, what is chastity?

At its simplest, chastity involves one person - usually a submissive - surrendering control over their own sexual release. This is often symbolised by wearing a physical device that prevents masturbation or penetration, typically locked and monitored by a Dominant or “keyholder.” But that’s only scratching the surface.

“Most people play with chastity for a night,” says Larah. “They get teased, they stay locked, they come out. It’s fun, it’s hot, and that’s enough. But for others, especially long-term players, it becomes something more - something routine. Chastity becomes a mental shift.”

Larah often frames chastity as a tool for focus. “It resets your relationship with your body. If you're not spending your free time jerking off, you’ve got more energy for the gym, more clarity, more motivation. I’ve seen subs completely transform how they operate outside the bedroom once they start incorporating chastity into their lifestyle.”

For many, that shift is what keeps them coming back.

How a Domme finds her way into chastity play

Larah’s own journey into chastity began with client requests. “I had a few subs who wanted to wear cages in session,” she recalls. “Then during lockdown, when I was streaming regularly, there was this online challenge where people were meant to stay locked for the duration. At first, it was meant to be two weeks. Then it stretched to six months. A year. I was talking to people deep into the chastity scene and really began to understand how much it meant to them.”

It wasn’t just about denial. It was about ritual. It was about routine. It was about power.

And sometimes, it was about irritation - in the best possible way. “Honestly,” Larah says, “the fact that it annoys certain men online just made me love it even more.”

Chastity is psychological, not just physical

The idea of locking away a part of your body - especially one so culturally tied to identity and autonomy - can be unnerving. But that’s part of the appeal. In surrendering control, many submissives find relief, even clarity.

“There’s this idea that chastity is about humiliation or punishment,” Larah says. “But it can be soft. It can be affirming. Some people use it to explore their gender identity, or as part of feminisation. Others do it to feel more in control of their desires - ironically, by giving that control away.”

For many submissives, the fantasy goes hand-in-hand with long-term denial. “They want the fantasy of being locked for life,” says Larah. “That I’ve thrown the key away. That they’ll never be allowed to come again. But in reality, chastity has to be negotiated. And it takes practice. It’s not something you just jump into overnight.”

The power dynamic: trust, planning, and the urge to purge

One of the biggest misconceptions around chastity is that it’s purely one-sided. That the Dominant decides, and the submissive simply endures. But as Larah explains, sustainable chastity relies on structure, mutual understanding, and communication.

“I always tell people - especially those new to it - not to go too hard, too soon. You need to have a plan. You need to know what days you might need the cage off for work or events. You need to understand your own limits.”

It’s not uncommon for new players to hit what she calls the “seven-day meltdown.” A week in, their mental state shifts, desire builds, frustration sets in and then comes the purge.

“They rip the cage off. They throw it out. They feel ashamed, like they’ve failed me or themselves and that comes from this place of internalised shame around their desires. But I always tell them - it’s okay. Just put it in a box or leave it in your car. Come back to it when you’re ready.”

This purge cycle, she explains, is common in all kinds of kink - particularly when it’s tied to identity, shame, or secrecy. That’s why negotiation, pacing, and aftercare are so vital.

Safety, sustainability & long-term play

Larah works mostly with online submissives, using structured caging plans to help tailor the experience. “Some check in twice a day. Some once a week. Some prefer a self-led plan. It depends on the dynamic.”

Emergency protocols are also non-negotiable. “If someone needs to remove their cage for medical reasons, or even because they’re catching a flight - they take it off. We don’t mess around with safety.”

The most important part of long-term chastity - communication. Especially when other partners are involved.

“You can have a Domme and a keyholder, but if you’re in a relationship, your partner needs to know. Even if they’re not involved in the dynamic. It’s about being honest, open, and responsible. You can’t build something sustainable if it’s built on secrecy.”

So, is chastity for everyone?

Not necessarily. But for those who crave structure, self-discipline, or a deeper layer of power exchange - it can be transformative.

“It's about understanding your motivations,” Larah says. “What do you want to feel? Why are you doing this? Once you know that, you can shape a dynamic that actually supports you - emotionally, sexually, psychologically.”

And maybe that’s the real key. Chastity isn't just about what you lock away. It’s about what you unlock in yourself.